What does the title mean? Why would someone be afraid to succeed? You can understand someone being afraid to fail, can't you? Why would someone be afraid to succeed?
There is an old adage, that goes - if you try something new, you will either win or you will..........? Lose?
HOW WRONG!! .. The answer is that you will LEARN!
Unless it is some life threatening or fortune threatening venture or pursuit the outcome of not winning is usually finding out what doesn't work and working out how to do better next time (note that I didn't say Succeed, next time - it might take a bit of fine tuning before that happens), but every little improvement is part of the journey toward your end goal, which is defined as SUCCESS.
Talking about that journey, it is often said that "the toughest terrain that we ever negotiate is the six inches between our ears!" What does that mean? It means that self-doubt, procrastination, fear of the responsibilities that come with success, or just plain inertia, do more to prevent progress than all the physical barriers that we encounter, put together.
So, fear of success translates to:
"..The Paralysis of Analysis .."
What is it about the human psyche that makes people procrastinate, or get into debt, by not managing themselves more rigidly?
Well, it is very easy to hide behind a screen of mediocrity, to just get by, to make a living and not a life. The path of least resistance is always the most well trodden, isn't it? The "no going back" situation doesn't work anymore, you can't slip back into mediocrity once you have made the effort, or can you?
But here lies the problem - if you truly want to succeed, mediocrity is not an option.
We have to push ourselves and stretch outside our comfort zone. If you want to be like that, then stretch a little bit at a time - each time you do, it's like stretching an elastic band, until it gets bigger and bigger, a little at a time.
That is where goal setting can come in - if you set realistic and realisable goals, you can stretch a bit at a time - you can retreat into the shadows every now and then to lick your wounds, as long as you have the discipline to come back out into the light and put your head up. It's okay to fall off the horse or the bike, as long as you work out why you fell, get back on and keep going.
Goals are never set in concrete, they can change on the run - think of the example of the guided missile - they don't just fire it at a fixed point, from hundreds of miles and hope for the best, they tweak it so that it makes little tiny course corrections all along the way, adjusting for wind, rain, magnetic variations, and everything else that can be thrown at it, until it zeroes in on the target. That should be how we see our goals. There is only one certainty in goal setting and that is that if you aim at nothing you are sure to hit it!
Maybe you need to have a bucket list of things to do that will conquer your fears - maybe you just need to latch on to a good mentor, to read and digest great motivational material, but the bottom line is that THERE IS ALWAYS A WAY - if you can't climb the wall, then either crash through it, go around it, or tunnel under it.
In any business there are lots of mentors and, particularly in the online world - find ways to find the gurus, and you will find, in most cases, that if you ask for their help they will be only too happy to give it. Remember, that everybody who is doing business online, whether it be blogging, selling, teaching, whatever is highly interested in building their list, so why wouldn't someone be happy to hear from you if you were prepared to subscribe them, and most of those guys have been where you are, now and most probably got their start through asking for help, or asking to guest blog, or to write an article for a website.
So, remember, success will come to you when you are ready to embrace it. don't be daunted by it, but go looking for it! Be creative about how to find it - ask Google dumb questions and you will be surprised at how intuitive the answers will be.
Nuff said - more later - let me know what you think - is this the sort of material that you like to read and comment on ? Leave a comment below and get the discussion started.
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